Hi Everyone, I'm a Cancer female and I've been reading through all the posts in the Virgo tribe for about a week now and thought I'd join and ask a few questions. I met a Virgo male about a year and a half ago (the first one in my life) and am finding it very difficult to get emotionally close to him, when I really want to. I feel as though I'm under a microscope in his presence and anything I say can, and has been used against me. He was the one to pursue me in the beginning and due to my fears of getting burned after a bad relationship, gave him the impression I wasn't that interested while in his presence.. But have maintained contact via txt, email and tried calling him. He has this habit of wanting to see me then distancing himself for a month or so then will pop up like nothing happened and wants to see me again. I don't understand this and find it confusing... I've tried to make contact and ask him straight out what he wants, but he wont respond and ignores me until he feels like talking again (could be up to two months). I find that he prefers to be in the same room and has little interest in communicating via phone etc... It's a long distance thing too. I think I'm falling for him and just can''t work out if he likes me or not. Can anyone shed some light on whether this guy may like me if he keeps coming back? Thanks
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Re: understanding Virgo men
Fri, February 29, 2008 - 8:02 AMCancer & Virgo
When Cancer and Virgo make a love match, a strong, down-to-earth relationship with staying power is the happy result. This is a relationship with great potential to get better and better over the passing years. Both Cancer and Virgo are goal-oriented and disciplined. They are sincere and devoted to one another and share a strong sense of purpose. No lightweight love here: These two were not really built for flings! Cancer and Virgo deeply admire one another: Virgo respects Cancer's quiet strength and dedication while Cancer appreciates Virgo's keen adaptability and intelligence.
These lovers may get off to a slow start, but over time, bonds will only grow stronger. The Cancer-Virgo love match prides itself on common sense and strong principles over fluff and inconsequential or fleeting connections. They enjoy the material comforts of life, but they will only feel good about their bounty if it has come as a result of honest hard work. There could be tiffs if Virgo becomes too critical for Cancer's easily bruised feelings; Cancer needs to understand that it's just Virgo's nature to point out what they observe, that it's not a personal attack. A Virgo may bristle at their Cancer mate's stubborn streak, but it's a trait that a patient and understanding love partner like Virgo could come to appreciate. Also, Virgo's urge to serve suits Cancer's affectionate, nurturing nature well.
The Moon (Emotion) rules Cancer, and Mercury (Communication) rules Virgo. Though they're very different planets, they're both near the Sun and therefore always in one another's neighborhoods. The Moon is a mothering influence; it's about cultivation and fostering growth, which are both central concerns for Cancer. Mercury is all about communication, and it's an androgynous energy -- Virgo will adapt and take on the form that it chooses, the guise that best serves a situation. Virgo takes an intellectual approach to life (especially compared to the emotional Cancer), but still manages to be perceptive and intuitive enough to figure others out if they choose. Good thing for the Crab, then, that a Virgo mate can get a feel for devotion and domestic fulfillment if that's what their Cancer lover desires. These two won't argue about fulfilling one another's needs. They'll work at it and relish the rewards of their conscientiousness.
Cancer is a Water Sign, and Virgo is an Earth Sign. Earth Signs, true to their name, are down-to-earth, but they can also be materialistic and preoccupied with acquisition. The Cancer-Virgo love partners like to surround themselves with comfortable, well-crafted things. Water Signs rely on feeling and intuition, making Cancer the emotive force behind this relationship, in a subtle Cancer way, of course. Along with their desire for prosperity, their love of a fancy home life ensures that this couple will work hard toward this shared goal. Also, they're practical pair, and losing control is never really an issue.
Cancer is a Cardinal Sign, and Virgo is a Mutable Sign. While Cancer gets things going, Virgo thrives on a changing routine of responsibilities and challenges. Because they're so ubiquitous, Virgo will find a place in Cancer's plans if they really want to. Virgo will keep in mind Cancer's plans, and will eventually bring results even if Cancer has moved on.
What's the best aspect of Cancer-Virgo relationship? Their dedication to working toward the same goals. Both partners in this love match enjoy a stable home life and nice things, and Virgo truly enjoys helping Cancer along the way to achieving their goals. Their shared goals and desires make theirs a highly compatible love match. -
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Re: understanding Virgo men
Fri, February 29, 2008 - 1:02 PMThere is one slight problem... I was adopted as a little girl and no one knew my birth date so a date of birth was chosen for me. So I may not be a Cancer, If only I knew which star sign I truly am... I wish I could find someone with a lot of knowledge on Astrology to try and figure out which sign I am.
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Re: understanding Virgo men
Fri, February 29, 2008 - 1:14 PM>>>...He has this habit of wanting to see me then distancing himself for a month or so then will pop up like nothing happened and wants to see me again. I don't understand this and find it confusing...<<<
Gosh, Virgos are so confusing... a lot of people have no idea what they are *really* thinking... or what they *really* want... I think a lot of the time, the Virgo doesn't even know... I know one thing though... He wouldn't be talking to you AT ALL if there really wasn't a reason for it all... I think the guy might have some feelings for you... feelings can be kinda intense on some Virgos... so when a Virgo realized himself or herself focusing more time something or someone when it isn't concrete or complete, Virgo's will usually hide and focus on something else...
I think he's still coming back to you, and still communicating because he can tell theres something there between you....
One thing I don't like is that you said:
"I've tried to make contact and ask him straight out what he wants, but he wont respond and ignores me until he feels like talking again"
that makes me assume all he wants is a sexual relationship... because I don't know too many Virgo's who cant straight up tell u what they want... Virgo's are usually the best at that..... hopefully my post even made sense... -
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Re: understanding Virgo men
Sat, March 1, 2008 - 3:47 PMThanks Joey for your reply and yes it made perfect sense... Something I'm wondering whether is a Virgo thing or not. is the guy I know
thought he would never have a chance with me, so only after I gave him a small sign of interest did he begin to pursue, then when he won me over he started to panic that he wasn't good enough and began questioning why I would like him in the first place... then got scared even to the point of telling me that he didn't think he could live up to my expectations. Is this common with Virgo men?
As for your suggestion of him possibly only wanting a " sexual relationship " he denies this, so should I believe him? I mean, would you guys lie about that stuff? I always read that Virgos aren't into flings and would prefer something deeper... Am I wrong? -
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Re: understanding Virgo men
Sat, March 1, 2008 - 4:19 PMI guess it really depends... most virgos I know truly want relationships that are more than just " flings ".. plus, who knows what else is going on in his chart... he seems quite shy, have you tried asking really friendly if he just wants to get together? for lunch or coffee, or anything? -
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Sat, March 1, 2008 - 4:43 PMum, not quite, I tried asking him out for dinner but he never replied. I actually think he's kind of given up on me in a way, because I don't want to get married or have children ( been there done that) .. also because I like intelligent men and he tells me he's not intelligent and is very boring.
Yeah I think he's a bit shy and insecure deep down, even though he puts on a front that hes very confident. I also get the impression that he wants to be pursued by me, because If I stop contact for awhile he'll ask why he's not heard from me.. If I explain to him that I've stopped because he never replies to me, he doesn't get it... I never understand how he can want me to continue txting or emailing him but be perfectly fine to ignore me until it suits him.
Hmm, this is the most confusing guy I've ever known... he's been burned by women so many times that he doesn't trust any of us now... Damn -
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Re: understanding Virgo men
Thu, April 10, 2008 - 10:44 AM"Something I'm wondering whether is a Virgo thing or not. is the guy I know
thought he would never have a chance with me, so only after I gave him a small sign of interest did he begin to pursue, then when he won me over he started to panic that he wasn't good enough and began questioning why I would like him in the first place... then got scared even to the point of telling me that he didn't think he could live up to my expectations. Is this common with Virgo men? "
WOW. I am SO like this! I'm a virgo female, with a cancer male...
I behave like this, and my cancer points it out, and it helps me to see what I'm doing and heal from my past. Sometimes, when I don't want to "deal" with my past, I get upset and scared, and want to run, but we've sort of worked out a way to handle it all...
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